What Real Love is to Me

“The Prophet…..Kahlil Gibran
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“You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness.
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each others cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each others keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each others shadow.”

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———-theLorelei———— "The past is all I have..." - Guenevere in the movie Camelot.  This is my all-time favorite sayings of Kahlil Gibran in the book The Prophet. Often we seek to possess people because we love them and having them as in marriage or in a relationship is an assurance that the love between two people is sealed and unchanged. Marriage is a commitment…a joy of having someone to love you back and someone to start a family with. Someone to lean on, to share your dreams and aspirations with and together you start the journey of life as one. It is a never-ending compromise, a give and take, of sharing….of joys and pains. It is a beautiful bond of love and togetherness. Loving someone need not be in a relationship, marriage or any binding papers. Love should not stifle anyones happiness and growth. It should be supportive and happy in the knowledge that the person you love cares and loves you back. It should be giving and sharing,  of being supportive without any expectations. This is what they call unconditional love. Be it in marriage, relationships with someone, relationships with children, your siblings, friends and others. Kahlil Gibran’s sayings above is my comfort in knowing that I can not have the people I care for and love. For love is a strong force within me that transcends barriers, time and distance. Love for me is not keeping someone physically….rather keeping someone in ones heart….of singing the same song and having the same tune… of dancing the same dance and having the same steps…of having the same beat, rhythm and soul…..of being alone yet you are not alone………   ——theLorelei

Blog Therapy and Legacy

BLOG THERAPY & LEGACY - by Oying Cayabyab-Yago

Aug 24, '10 12:36 AM                   for lorelei's network

People who know me wonder why I sit for long hours in front of my laptop glued to the open multiple windows. Some may think it is such a waste of time sitting here when I could be doing something else more productive.

Lorelei.......behind the solitude and faint smile.

But if they only look closer and think deeper and have a little foresight up their heads, they would probably do now what I am doing.

Normally, over the past years, I have scribbled my thoughts on paper, notebooks, journals and whatever came handy that I could write on. Those notes were read only by me and never shared to anyone. Those were unedited spur of the moment outburst of emotions and unmasked thoughts.

For many reasons unknown to many, there is something in what I am doing here that has stirred my spirit, animated my imagination and organized my thoughts. I have been blogging my thoughts and sharing them to my friends. Unlike before, my thoughts now are known to everyone. This way they get to know me better and what is really behind that solitude and faint smile…what has been brewing in my mind, the unfolding of whatever mystery that has shrouded the real me. I realized that expression and communication are vital for a healthier individual. The more you get to ventilate and express clearly your thoughts and share stories, the better you feel psychologically and people understand you better.  And when that happens, it follows that you become a better individual in interacting with others. Furthermore, this exercise helps me in knowing myself better as I jot down and process my thoughts and feelings on matters.

There is also another good side to this. Time will come when I will be too old to be remembering in vivid details in sharing stories to my children and future grandchildren. When that time comes, they could open up and read my journals, dig into the archives of my blogs and eagerly get to know the old lady that loved to write and blog in her younger years.

I Was Much Younger Then....Looking Back at Days Gone By